Being a newborn photographer allows me the opportunity to meet some amazing families. Each baby that is lovingly carried through the front door of my studio is special and unique. It wasn’t long after specializing in newborn photography that I learned about some special babies that were referred to as “Rainbow Babies”.
A “rainbow baby” is a baby that is born following a miscarriage, stillbirth, or loss of a newborn. “Rainbow Babies” is the understanding that the beauty of a rainbow does not negate the ravages of the storm. When a rainbow appears, it doesn’t mean the storm never happened or that the family is not still dealing with its aftermath. What it means is that something beautiful and full of light has appeared in the midst of the darkness and clouds. Storm clouds may still hover but the rainbow provides a counterbalance of color, energy, and hope.
The baby that was lost was not the storm but the grief and pain from the trauma of losing a baby. I have listened to many mothers who have shared their hearts of the loss as they held their newborn rainbow babies in my studio. One of my clients, who I’ll call Nicky, gave me permission to share her story here.
Nicky and her husband are happily married and already the proud parents of two beautiful children. Their dream as a couple was to have a large family with a home full of happy children.
They were so excited to find out that they were pregnant again. There was all the excitement of planning for a new edition to their family. Would this baby look like their brother or sister? How will we decorate the nursery? Will it be a boy or a girl? But that excitement ended way too soon. Nicky lost this baby in her first trimester. In her words, “It doesn’t matter how early or how late you lose a baby, it is still a life.” She shared with me the guilt that she felt like she had failed somehow. Although the pain never really leaves, Nicky knew she had to keep going. She decided to make some positive changes and try again for another baby. It wasn’t long before once again, she was pregnant. The joy, however, was short-lived as she lost this baby as well.
After losing a baby, many of my moms have shared with me the fear and anxiety of being pregnant again. It’s like a cloud that hangs over you. You want to be excited but your heart has been broken. You’re not sure if you can handle another loss. It makes a mother not want to feel the joy for the risk of losing yet another baby.
I am blessed to meet their little rainbows after the storm. The memory of the babies that they lost never leaves. One baby can never replace another. However, the joy of holding a rainbow baby fills a mother’s heart with new joy and hope.
I want to share the rest of Nicky’s story. Pushing the grief of two miscarriages aside, Nicky and her husband decided to keep trying for another baby. Once again, she found out she was pregnant. There were no big announcements this time. They held their breath and hoped and believed for 9 months till their precious rainbow baby made her grand appearance into this great big world. She is truly the joy at the end of their rainbow.
I’m happy to announce that Kimberly Fain Photography will be giving complimentary sessions to Rainbow Babies with 10 digital images for social media. We want to celebrate the precious gifts at the end of every rainbow. What an honor it is to capture the miracle of life after loss. I can’t wait to meet these precious babies and hear their stories.